Many months back, an acquaintance shared her moving forward solution was to be indifferent. She wrote of her negative experiences in considerable details I could feel her critical emotions and hate. I didn’t quite understand how that could be indifference with apathy. Nevertheless her theory is correct.
Being indifferent is not shelving away toxic thoughts, erasing history, avoiding the mention of them and forgetting in the form of pretense they never happened. Neither does letting go mean fostering hatred with seeding anger nor subtly posting pictures of narcissistic happiness and scribbling status messages how great life is on social media.
It means when one has overcome pain in the face of adversities and can relate such experiences with apathy without any thoughts of negativity towards anything, one has truly let go and moved on.
My progress was slow. I had to deal with pain everyday at the level of consciousness. It was bitter but it was also necessary. I acknowledged and understood. And because of that I can recall and speak of my experience to anyone with calmness now. I neither hate nor have well wishes. The opposite of love is indifference.